Feeling as if the two wounded parts in my chest will never adhere to one another again. I have the same thing happening with my thumb. I probably should have got stitches as I keep opening up this wound. Sidenote: Do not cut a mango at 2AM when you are half asleep no matter how strong the craving…
Back to the matter of the heart. Experiencing a broken heart is a necessary rite of passage. A rite of passage that some encounter many times. Indeed there are several types of broken hearts. To name a few:
- The first of course is the breakup/loss of a romantic partner.
- There is the heartbreak of the permanent loss of a parent.
- The heartbreak of watching your children make the same mistakes you have made…being heartbroken over their hearts breaking.
- Have you ever had a broken heart over breaking someone else’s? I have…
Yes, I have received many heartbreaking phone calls. I have opened the wrong emails. I have heard the news face to face and even through well-meaning friends.
I have even been served divorce papers the day after the other person declared their undying love for me. The same thing happened to a friend of mine several years before. When she told me about it I thought “Boy is she lucky to have this sociopath out of her life”. When it happened to me, I… understood her reaction.
I try to stay away from mainstream media as there are so many heartbreaking events taking place. I must confess however, I do not do a good enough job of this. And this is a good thing. I need to know what to pray for and who needs to receive good energy.
What do we do when we are in the raw pain of a broken heart?
Well the first thing is to stop should-ing all over yourself. Shoulda-woulda-coulda are traps that will slow down the process of healing your injured heart. Stop blaming yourself and the other person. Acknowledge what is happening, accept it and be prepared to go through the process.
I believe in journaling. I will let it all out and use just about every one of my favorite four-lettered words! Here is my suggested format:
- Check in holistically. Write how your mind, body, emotions and heart spirit are at the moment. (One word per item is sufficient for this part)
- Lay on your back and take a breath. Journal where you are feeling your pain the most (the chest, the head, the stomach)
- Then write down every gut-wrenching thought and feeling…Don’t hold back!
- Ask yourself what you can benefit from this pain and of course write it down.
- Write about how others can benefit from the lessons you have learned from all this.
Some Yogis suggest the following:
- Lion’s Breath – which is a powerful and funny cleansing breath. You will find that you are laughing while doing this as it is quite hilarious!
- A long plank to remind you how strong you are.
- Back-bends like Upward Facing Dog and Camel Pose to reopen your heart, which might want to close itself off from the world just about now.
- Then an expressive pose of your choice to remind you of who you are and what you value in life. This could be Dancer Pose or a Headstand.
The bible has some wonderful scripture on this topic:
Psalm 34:18 – The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit
Psalm 147:3 – He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
John 14:27 – Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
Philippians 4:6-7 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Right now would be a good time to start or rekindle old friendships. Go shopping together. One of my girlfriends and I went through Macy’s Women’s section and pretended we were models in a fashion show!
Trust the Process
You will get through this. You will grow from this. You will be able to pass on your knowledge to others and help them get through their heart breaking moments. Because we are universally connected, we have the ability to help one another heal and become stronger – together.
Stay Blissful My Friends – E