Short Hair & Other Resolutions

We could all use a little change – Smashmouth

My hair is short today. At the beginning of the year, I had long extensions. They were removed in the Spring. My hair was then just past shoulder length. Not a bad length. But then I got obsessive about my gray hairs and decided to have it colored, then highlighted.

Between all the chemicals and heat styling, my hair started dying. Rapidly. So it had to be cut down. Oh, it will grow again. Maybe.

Oh, and the weight gain…caused another back injury. Just as I arrived in Ecuador. Most of my food goes bad because I buy too much anyway. But I continue to wake up in the middle of the night to sneak Oreos from the pantry. Why are there Oreos in my pantry?!!!

Laundry day has become an all-day event, prompting me to buy more clothes?! Am I the only one?

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They say the outward is a direct representation of the inward. This year has proven that statement to be quite fair. I have taken a long inventory of the excess in my life as of late. My physical being told a great story.

Weight (This one Really Hurts)

I had a back injury in 2016. In addition to treatment, I was put on a Ketogenic diet to lose 30 lbs. This was a complete success throughout late 2016 and all of 2017. I felt better than I had in years!

But then, I thought I could have a cookie in 2018…Mind you, I had just begun a new relationship with a wonderful man and lost my soulmate (my dog, Chewy). So much emotion – and this will be another topic in the Shedding the Excess Process.

Because emotion plays right into eating habits for me, by the end of  2018 I had gained 15 of those pounds back. Now that doesn’t seem like much but let me tell you, I injured my back again. Additionally, heartburn and burning mouth syndrome have returned.

The solution to this: Find another healthy eating program. One in which I can afford. I decided upon HIITBURN after completing their questionnaire. For $97.00, I get a personal coach. This is extremely helpful since I travel a lot and cannot go into a clinic for weigh-ins.

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Home

My house in Colorado was difficult to give up. So many memories. My son wanted to buy it to raise my granddaughters in the home they knew so well. Unfortunately, he could not come up with the money in time and my ex-husband was wanting his money.

This proved to be a blessing in disguise. The house did hold many moments in time. And it was time to let those moments go. Just as I had said goodbye to Chewy, I needed to say goodbye to the home I raised him within.

Again, this was an emotional process. I had already minimized so much and moved into an RV. But there was more.

How many of us hold on to a cluttered home because we just cannot let go of the dead energy that we know so well. There is safety in the familiar. I had learned this when I got sober. I had learned this when I got divorced.

I realized that I did not want the responsibility of a mortgage. I didn’t even want the responsibility of digging in roots anymore. It’s time to travel the world. It’s my time. And, it’s time to own it.

House sold.

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SHOES!!

Okay, I have a love-hate relationship with shoes. But especially boots. I have been stalked by shoes and boots on Facebook. But alas, I have no room for all the shoes that I once owned. Furthermore, I don’t need all of them!

Clothes

When I am in my new landing spot in West Texas, I dread laundry day. Packing for my long-term trips around the world is a nightmare.

I had a flannel shirt for 15 years. It served me well until the holes could no longer be mended. After which, trying to find that perfect flannel again took another 15 years. I remember a conversation with my favorite pair of white pants when I was 16. “Okay, I am giving you one more chance to make it right. I’m going to wash you with bleach and if you are still pink when you come out, it’s off to the Segunda for you!”. They came out white again…

I downsized my wardrobe twice in 2018 and have concluded that I need to do this again. But clothing also has an emotional connection. This item was a gift, this other item was something I wore on a special day. How can I hold on to these memories while letting go of the piece of clothing that means so much to me?

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Yoga Practice

How can one practice Yoga too much? When it starts to lean more on either aspect – the physical/spiritual. Yoga burn-out is real. It happens. It was happening to me. Just after a great year of taking two additional Yoga Teacher Trainings.

It was time to change it up. I had no choice but to do so when I injured my back. Taking a look at the many different practices:

  • Hatha
  • Iyengar
  • Restorative
  • Yin
  • Kundalini

I landed back on Kundalini because, though it can be physical, it is also less stressful on the back for some reason. I found a lovely 40-day Kundalini for weight loss program. What I started to see as a continual topic through this program was “Shedding the Excess”.


This is just a small piece of the pie. (oh, I want pie).  There’s much more excess to cut:


People are flocking to the Minimalist Movement. But do they really know why it is so appealing? Do they understand the philosophy behind this movement? Or is this just another pop-cultural thing to do? Another “Shiny Object” to play with for a while?

For me, it has become a new prana. The only way to truly breathe now. And I realized this when I looked in the mirror and saw that my hair is short today.

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Perfectionism – an Imperfect Practice

I’m not the average girl from your video
And I aint built like super model
But I learn to love myself unconditionaly
Because I am a queen – India Arie


If You’re Perfect & You Know It, Raise Your hand!

I love the song “Not Your Average Girl” by India Arie. Though, when I first gave it a listen, I was still living in my perfectionism. Hair and makeup, home, cars, and career all had to at least look perfect.

Today, I choose to keep my hand lowered and my heart open to the values of imperfection. Have you ever heard of the art known as Wabi-Sabi? It is a fabulous form of appreciating the beauty in old, tattered objects, amongst other imperfections!

Three Benefits of Imperfection

  1. More time to enjoy quality moments with your family and friends.
    • If you are not focusing so much of your energy trying to perfect things (like holiday dinners), you actually have more time to actually spend with your loved ones!
  2. Less Anxiety
    • Perfectionism creates some of the most unnecessary stress in our lives. Mainly due to the inability of its achievement.
    • When we stop putting unrealistic expectations on ourselves, our anxiety is relieved considerably
  3. Poof! Procrastination is eliminated!
    • One of the key contributors to procrastination is perfectionism.
    • Therefore, we kill two birds with one stone (sorry for that analogy, EPA)!

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How To Let Go of Perfectionism

Don’t have time to make that “perfect” dinner? Order out! It’s okay, really. Go a day (or 2) without wearing makeup and styling your hair. Cancel the pedicure! Put down the PowerPoint presentation BEFORE it’s complete. You might find that the world will not stop spinning if you choose to do any of these!

Enjoy your life the way it is as opposed to how you idealize it. Love you, exactly how you are this moment. Love your family, exactly how they are at this very moment.

P.S. I purposely chose not to spell-check this writing as an additional form of practicing imperfection! Stay Blissful My Friends – E

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Sunday Shot of Bliss X. Spiritual Beauty

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The thing about beauty to me is that I will never attain MY concept of beauty. I am far too imperfect. My features are too big, my body too jiggly – I could go on. Ironically, I see beauty in everything and everyone around me, but myself.

So what is beauty?

Beauty – noun, plural beauties. 1. The quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc.), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest).

I grew up in a family that has vanity issues. We all have it. My older sister was/is very beautiful. She also suffers from bi-polar disease and borderline personality disorder. Throughout our developing years she often told me how ugly I was, pointing out my nappy hair; big nose; big lips; oh and my arms were too long for the rest of my body. I bought into it and in doing so, continued to feed my vanity.

How many years have I spent dieting, buying special makeup and hair products that guaranteed to make me look like the supermodel in the ad? Hello! I am not a supermodel!  My daughter once asked me why I don’t have any pictures of myself in my 20’s and I honestly told her that up until a few years ago, I hated taking pictures. There was one picture of me that I did like and it was a picture of my arm. My favorite picture of myself was a picture of my arm…

I have often rebelled against such vanity in an Ecclesiastical sort of way, only to be drawn back in by the latest beauty fads on the market. It is apparent in just about every form of media that I am not the only one.

“I am very dark, but lovely,  O daughters of Jerusalem, like the tents of Kedar,   like the curtains of Solomon.” – Song of Solomon 1:5

I feel that as a society, we are finally getting the true concept of beauty. It is not always blonde and blue-eyed. Sometimes it is short, red-haired with freckles. Sometimes it is 170 lbs. worth of beauty. But it is always love when it is looked upon with love.


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So what is spiritual beauty?

I guess spiritual beauty, just as in physical beauty is seen in the eye of the beholder. Only, let that beholder be yourself today. What are your spiritual beauty ideals?  Here are a few of mine:

  • Grace and Courage under fire.
  • Kindness
  • Joyfulness
  • Gratitude
  • A person who takes care of her spiritual, mental and physical health.
  • Women who empower each other and lift each other up.
  • Love and respect for ALL of God’s creation.
  • Passion for a cause.
  • Love of family and of God.

Beauty in the Moment

It is often recommended that we focus on the moment. So while we are doing something as basic as rinsing those vegetables in the colander while preparing our meals, let us pay attention to all the senses surrounding this activity. Let us take a moment to acknowledge the love we are putting into this meal. In this love and nurturing of ourselves and others, we will know our true spiritual beauty. Because beauty is simple as it is stunning…it all depends on the moment.


Walking in Beauty: Closing Prayer from the Navajo Way Blessing Ceremony

In beauty I walk

With beauty before me I walk

With beauty behind me I walk

With beauty above me I walk

With beauty around me I walk

It has become beauty again

Hózhóogo naasháa dooShitsijí’ hózhóogo naasháa dooShikéédéé hózhóogo naasháa dooShideigi hózhóogo naasháa dooT’áá altso shinaagóó hózhóogo naasháa dooHózhó náhásdlíí’Hózhó náhásdlíí’Hózhó náhásdlíí’Hózhó náhásdlíí’

Today I will walk out, today everything negative will leave me

I will be as I was before, I will have a cool breeze over my body.

I will have a light body, I will be happy forever, nothing will hinder me.

I walk with beauty before me. I walk with beauty behind me.

I walk with beauty below me. I walk with beauty above me.

I walk with beauty around me. My words will be beautiful.

In beauty all day long may I walk.

Through the returning seasons, may I walk.

On the trail marked with pollen may I walk.

With dew about my feet, may I walk.

With beauty before me may I walk.

With beauty behind me may I walk.

With beauty below me may I walk.

With beauty above me may I walk.

With beauty all around me may I walk.

In old age wandering on a trail of beauty, lively, may I walk.

In old age wandering on a trail of beauty, living again, may I walk.

My words will be beautiful…

Stay Blissful My Friends! – E

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