…What they are asking me – the woman who is traveling alone. Their Questions and my answers.
I’m in my second year post-divorce. What have I learned? So much, I have to gather my thoughts quite often.
I have learned that I enjoy traveling. I love to travel with the boyfriend. I love to travel alone. Presently, I am in the midst of a 2 1/2 month solo visit to South America.
I am also learning how this new lifestyle scares the hell out of some people. Or at least confuses the hell out of them. It’s become a fun little game of question and answer… or unsolicited statement and unsolicited reply.
- Next time you should experience this with someone you love.
- I am experiencing this with someone I love – Me.
- Who is driving you around?
- The bus driver.
- Be careful!!
- Of course.
- Aren’t you lonely?
- Sometimes. But everyone should experience loneliness from time to time. It helps one appreciate the presence of others.
- Do you need help with that?
- I sure do. Thank you!
- Do you miss home?
- I am home.
So, I don’t mind the questions or comments. Like everything else in my life, I just have fun with them!
Ultimately, I am having a fine time. Meeting new friends. Staying in and binge-watching shows without being judged. Walking through city squares at night, people watching. Lots of Café con Leche!
Ecuador has become my new favorite place. Olon, in particular. But Lima, Peru has its charm as well.
My daughter and I have a scheduled weekly chat to check in about our lives and new adventures. And there’s the occasional text to and from my sons. My oldest will be joining me in Peru to celebrate Christmas. I miss my kids. Yet, I am so happy that they are all living their truth. Experiencing their personal journeys.
I really miss my granddaughters deeply. Thankfully, they are in good hands. My son and his wife are an excellent team as parents.
I really really miss the boyfriend. Fortunately, we have this understanding: We welcome these pauses in our relationship. No, It’s not an open relationship. We just are okay being apart and being alone at times.
Plans and Lessons
There were many plans made for this trek through South America. Unfortunately, it didn’t all work out according to said plans. But it never does. The back is injured again, interrupting surfing lessons. And I was doing so well! So I guess I will try again next year. 2019 is on its way, regardless of whether I give it permission to do so.
Then there’s the “shedding the excess” lessons. This need is surely what this trip is uncovering. And I have learned, more importantly, to ask myself some questions:
- Are you being you – living your truth?
- Are you living according to your values?
- Have you reviewed your values lately?
- Can you be happy regardless of any circumstance?
- Are you sincerely ready to let go of the past?
These questions are being answered along this journey through South America. I guess discovery is what adventure is all about, right? Stay Blissful My Friends. – e