I’m not the average girl from your video
And I aint built like super model
But I learn to love myself unconditionaly
Because I am a queen – India Arie
If You’re Perfect & You Know It, Raise Your hand!
I love the song “Not Your Average Girl” by India Arie. Though, when I first gave it a listen, I was still living in my perfectionism. Hair and makeup, home, cars, and career all had to at least look perfect.
Today, I choose to keep my hand lowered and my heart open to the values of imperfection. Have you ever heard of the art known as Wabi-Sabi? It is a fabulous form of appreciating the beauty in old, tattered objects, amonst other imperfections!
Three Benefits of Imperfection
- More time to enjoy quality moments with your family and friends.
- If you are not focusing so much of your energy trying to perfect things (like holiday dinners), you actually have more time to actually spend with your loved ones!
- Less Anxiety
- Perfectionism creates some of the most unneccesary stress in our lives. Mainly due to the inability of its achievement.
- When we stop putting unrealistic expectations on ourselves, our anxiety is relieved considerably
- Poof! Procrastination is eliminated!
- One of the key contributors to procrastination is perfectionism.
- Therefore, we kill two birds with one stone (sorry for that analogy, EPA)!
How To Let Go of Perfectionism
Don’t have time to make that “perfect” dinner? Order out! It’s okay, really. Go a day (or 2) without wearing makeup and styling your hair. Cancel the pedicure! Put down the PowerPoint presentation BEFORE it’s complete. You might find that the world will not stop spinning if you choose to do any of these!
Enjoy your life the way it is as opposed to how you idealize it. Love you, exactly how you are this moment. Love your family, exactly how they are at this very moment.
P.S. I purposely chose not to spell-check this writing as an additional form of practicing imperfection! Stay Blissful My Friends – E